Acronyms

I came up against another acronym last night as I was sitting at the pub with my book group, eating birthday cake and chewing the fat with the crew. The birthday cake was particularly good. I’ve made it the day before, a rather lovely gluten-free white chocolate mud cake with butter cream cheese icing. I’ll make this one again, using two thirds what the recipe says so it doesn't spill all over my oven again. 

I don’t always talk about just the book that book group. I’d let it slip that I am going on a date on Saturday. Yes, another one. You have to meet a few frogs before you find what you’re after. This one, unlike the last person who tried to meet up with me appears to be a bit more human and a bit more like cup of tea. He’s also part of the ADHD, so it seems we have a little bit in common.

I dragged out my Hinge profile and showed the girls at the table this fellow’s profile. I will admit that I only pay limited attention to profiles on dating apps. Generally, you can only read so many Times how people like cuddling on the couch, The Shawshank Redemption or walking down a beach at sunset. I remember this fellow's profile was a bit more interesting. He’s learning how to make violins or one. There was a couple of other things which piqued my interest.

Then, I got asked, ‘What’s ENM? He says he's into ENM.’

‘I’m not quite sure. Let me run it through ChatGPT.’’ I replied.

It seems this person is looking for somebody for ethical non-monogamy.

Hmmm. 

Not sure how I feel about this.

There are couples there who have an open relationship and are quite happy with it. I have friends who are in open relationships and like all that that brings.

Then again, I also have friends who have been royally screwed over being in a polyamorous relationship. Expectations are not met, feelings get in the way, timings are off. It's hard to watch people hurting. 

I get told lots of things. In the end, if people are doing what they're doing and nobody gets hurt, then so be it. 

Unfortunately, it doesn't always work out like that. 

So where am I sitting on this ENM thing?

It's going to be a probably not. I've got enough on my plate without having to navigate extra people in any burgeoning relationship. My head is full enough. 

Thankfully, I'm pretty good with boundaries. I'll meet him for a coffee. I might make a friend. Besides, he sports a full beard - they're something I run a mile from (It's like kissing a hairbrush - joys of being sensitive to stimuli.) I just don't think I'd want anything more. 

Put it down to experience. 

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