Internet dating.
Blah.
But sometimes a girl needs to stick her toe back in the dating pool, knowing it's possibly full of piranhas, sharks, slippery eels, pond scum and old boots.
But maybe there's a gem in there as well.
And yes, I've started chatting with this rather charming plumber from Elsternwick - but I've got my feet on the floor and boundaries at the ready, but he's been nice to chat with, even if he is a Carlton supporter.
We'll see what happens. He's a Pisces. Divorced father of two adult kids. A plumber. Goes to the footy.
What do we have in common? Not sure. We both like beer and test cricket.
See, here is the problem. I am the girl who drinks beer, comes from a country town, likes wearing thongs and puts tomato sauce on everything.
But I'm also the girl who has a Masters Degree, reads a book or two a week, loves foreign films, lives for the theatre and has an esoteric side that can scare people off.
Oh, and put on top of this a recent AuDHD diagnosis, which means I'm busily reframing everything in my life.
No wonder I've had trouble finding a partner for the last 40 years.
Anyway, I've outsourced this to AI - see what it says. Using my Human Design Profile, I asked AI to describe my perfect partner.
It came up with this:
Your perfect partner is someone who:
🟠Is grounded and emotionally secure, so they don’t feel threatened by your independence or alone time.
🟠Respects your authority to initiate and act on your own timing. They don’t need to be in control.
🟠Honors your need for solitude, giving you space to retreat and process.
🟠Is mentally and emotionally stable, not prone to projecting or blaming when their expectations aren’t met.
🟠Appreciates your intuitive decision-making and doesn’t push you to over-explain or rationalize.
🟠Shares your curiosity or commitment to meaningful experiences — or at least gives you freedom to follow your passions.
🟠Is protective of your environment, helping you create a calm, private home space where you feel safe.
🟠Can handle your intensity and transformative energy, as your Incarnation Cross brings change and deep commitment to life.
I then asked it where do I find this person - and this is what it said:
🧠WHERE You'll Find Your Ideal Partner
🔒 1. Your Environment Theme: "Caves"
You're designed to thrive in safe, enclosed, or selectively curated environments — both physically and socially.
This suggests:
Intimate gatherings, not big parties.
Quiet cafés, wine bars, or exclusive lounges.
Online spaces (where you can control the pace and privacy).
Small workshops or retreats, especially around art, healing, or self-development.
Your own home (hosting something small may draw the right person to you).
Pro tip: Your best connections tend to happen when you feel safe and in control of your environment — not when you're "putting yourself out there" in loud, chaotic situations.
🧠2. Strategy: You’re a Manifestor — You Initiate
But don’t go looking for them.
Instead:
Follow your urges — your inner authority (Splenic) will give you quiet intuitive nudges in the moment. It may be a pull to go to a certain bookstore, say yes to a last-minute invite, or message someone.
Trust those nudges. That’s where the people who match you tend to show up — because they are aligned with your personal path, not your mental plan.
The right partner shows up as a byproduct of you acting on your urges, not trying to attract love.
🧬 3. You're Designed to Be Noticed — But from the Sidelines
That 2nd line in your profile is the Hermit — people are drawn to your energy when you’re just doing your thing.
So paradoxically:
You’re most magnetic when you’re not looking.
Doing things that make you feel alive (creating, working on a passion project, traveling alone, dancing, etc.) often creates a field that calls your partner in.
If you’re "searching," it can repel.
🎯 Specific Places That Match Your Chart
🌙 1. Creative or Healing Spaces
Art galleries, ceramics studios, nature retreats
Somatic therapy spaces, spiritual workshops, or tantra/yoga spaces (especially smaller ones)
Indie bookstores or metaphysical shops
💻 2. Selective Online Platforms
More conscious dating apps (e.g., The Pattern, OkCupid, or even MeetMindful)
Private Facebook groups or Discord servers tied to your passions
🪷 3. Spontaneous Invitations
If you get a last-minute invite and feel a splenic “yes” — follow it.
The right person often shows up via someone you already know.
⏳ When Will You Find Them?
You don’t need to “manifest” them — you’re a Manifestor. You’re the one creating the conditions for the relationship to appear.
When you're living your design — informing others, trusting your spleen, and retreating into solitude when needed — your aura becomes magnetic to the right person.
Often, relationships for Manifestors arrive after a phase of solitude or inner alignment — not during the search.
I mean how do I explain that I have an encyclopaedic knowledge of 80s music, and I like Classical Music as much as I like the Hilltop Hoods.
I'm a big walking, talking contradiction.
With ADHD.
Fun, eh?
But as they say, once more onto the breach. Harfleur's walls need to tumble. (Nobody is going to get that reference.)
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